On Thursday, March 28th at 6:30pm, Phoenix Books Burlington will host Molly Millwood to celebrate the launch of her new book, To Have and To Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma.
To Have and To Hold is a clinical therapist’s exploration of the complexities of early motherhood, including its impact on a marriage, in a book that offers comfort, camaraderie, and practical guidance to new mothers. When Molly Millwood became a mother, she was fully prepared for all that she would gain: an adorable baby boy, hard-won mothering skills, and a messy, chaotic, love-filled home. But she didn’t anticipate what she would lose: an identity, a baseline level of happiness, a general sense of wellbeing. And though she had the benefit of a supportive husband during this transition, she also envied and at times resented the fact that the disruption to his life seemed to pale in comparison. As a clinical psychologist, Molly knew her experience was a normal response to a life-changing event—she was not broken, and neither was her marriage. But without the benefit of such a perspective, many of women she saw in treatment grappled with shame, self-doubt, and fear—all the while struggling to confide in, trust, or seek comfort in their partners.
In To Have and to Hold, Molly illuminates the ways in which motherhood impacts a woman emotionally, psychologically, physically, and professionally—as well as how it impacts the stability and harmony of her relationship. Along with the arrival of a bundle of joy comes thorny issues such as identity, control, autonomy, and dependency. And these issues are, most often, experienced within the context of an intimate relationship, adding another layer of complication, conflict, and confusion to an already challenging time. As Molly examines the inextricable link between women’s wellbeing as new mothers and the wellbeing of their relationships, she offers information and guidance to help readers reclaim their identities and repair their relationships. A blend of personal narrative, rigorous research, and stories from Molly’s clinical practice, To Have and to Hold provides a lifeline to new mothers everywhere.
Dr. Molly Millwood holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology with advanced specialized training in marital therapy and intimate relationships. After completing a post-doctoral fellowship at Stanford, Dr. Millwood joined the faculty of Saint Michael’s College in Vermont where she is now a tenured professor and clinical supervisor. Dr. Millwood is also a licensed psychologist in private practice and was a founding member of Vermont’s Postpartum Wellness Project. She lives in Lincoln, Vermont with her husband and two young children.
Phoenix Books Burlington is located at 191 Bank Street. Copies of To Have and To Hold will be available for attendees to purchase and have signed. For more information, please call 802-448-3350 or visit www.phoenixbooks.biz.
About Phoenix Books:
Phoenix Books was established in 2007 on the principles of social responsibility, community, and sustainability, and is a proud member of Local First Vermont and Vermont Businesses for Social Responsibility. Phoenix Books Essex, Phoenix Books Burlington, Phoenix Books Rutland and Phoenix Books Misty Valley are Vermont-owned, independent bookstores. Whenever possible, Phoenix Books sources eco-friendly products from Fair Trade/Green Certified companies. Seven Days readers voted Phoenix Books the "Best Bookstore" for the newspaper's 2013-2018 Daysie Awards, and Rutland Herald readers voted Phoenix Books the 'Best Local Bookstore' for the newspaper's 2016-2018 Best of the Best awards.